First of all, I loathe confrontation. I run from it. I hate to hurt someone and nine times out of ten will take the blame in a situation so that confrontation is minimal. I hate that about me and it is something I've always tried to improve upon but obviously in this case I ran. Stupidly. Very stupidly. But the thoughts of what happened have opened my mind to future bouts of confrontation and has given me just enough strength to not let a person do that again. It upset me deeply. It made me think of what lies ahead and where we've already walked in our international adoption journey.
There have been many things in the last six months since we've come home with our daughter that have been off color, odd, sincere interest or sometimes just plain stupidity by the uneducated. We've been stared at more than is comfortable for me sometimes. We've been approached by strangers to only spend an hour answering questions about what to expect when they start their own adoptions. We've been followed through a mall...that was a bit scary. We've been asked, and I quote, "will you tell her she's adopted"...SMACKED that person upside the head. Besides the man who asked a million questions, I have felt little need to confront the people who have walked pretty close to crossing the line. The person who asked if we will tell Miss J if she's adopted was an old (uneducated) friend who was quickly put right in the world. I knew how to deal with each incident I guess.
My reason for this post I guess is to ask you how you would have dealt with the camera guy. One thing I did not mention in my previous post is that we were sitting at the table with others who felt that what was happing was okay and to "just let it go". Also it happened so fast and was over before it felt like it even happened.
I do know the easiest answer....confront him and ask him to delete the picture. But how, is my question.