tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post3975785389803569122..comments2023-10-31T06:08:09.622-04:00Comments on Our Boy and His Cricket: Grieving is hardKaycehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01473905322257543749noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-46819088934784577092010-03-06T19:25:17.424-05:002010-03-06T19:25:17.424-05:00Kayce -
Hi, I've been meaning to post a comme...Kayce -<br /><br />Hi, I've been meaning to post a comment to the blog for a while. My dad (Chuck Quibell) sent me the link right around when you were leaving for China. <br /><br />I don't even want to think of how long its been since we hung out that summer in Huntington Lake. Good times!<br /><br />Anyway, I wanted to tell you how much this post moved me ... It brought me to tears. I am a new mom (son Soren was born on January 9), so maybe that played a part, but regardless, your daughter so lucky to have you. I hope to meet her some day! xoxoxox Allysonallysonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01854068942945174497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-56327564181533662010-03-05T23:48:31.412-05:002010-03-05T23:48:31.412-05:00I am new to your Blog...and must admit to being te...I am new to your Blog...and must admit to being teary-eyed over this post. What a beautiful testament of a mother's love for her child. And what POWERFUL writing. There's NOTHING like raw emotion on a page. God bless you and your family.Cleohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04380534524899995861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-34733310876782496232010-03-04T22:21:14.649-05:002010-03-04T22:21:14.649-05:00Kayce, I couldn't read it all. You had me in t...Kayce, I couldn't read it all. You had me in tears. I don't know what to say but your Cricket is so lucky that "mommy or daddy loves her" and that "they aren't going anywhere". God Bless your family.Kellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15685236858897212286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-87534643983941446742010-03-04T13:42:11.389-05:002010-03-04T13:42:11.389-05:00Bless your hearts - and your sweet daughters. It w...Bless your hearts - and your sweet daughters. It will get better.... I have so been there!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-46342092264701759122010-03-03T09:58:48.618-05:002010-03-03T09:58:48.618-05:00Thanks for opening my eyes. I just came across th...Thanks for opening my eyes. I just came across this. May the Lord pour grace on her little heart. Thank you for letting God speak through your words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-91646826516885991372010-02-28T23:00:35.387-05:002010-02-28T23:00:35.387-05:00Grieving: The one thing we Mama's can't er...Grieving: The one thing we Mama's can't erase from the journey of our girls. I saw my daughter grieve very deeply for 3 months and then the sun began to shine all day and night. We have our set backs where the grief and pain resurface, but beneath it all, I see the most amazing little girl who radiates beauty. These are the moments that heros are made. Your girl is among those heros made. God bless her little soul.t~https://www.blogger.com/profile/16661748211204975504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-9793676217708548762010-02-28T19:44:31.565-05:002010-02-28T19:44:31.565-05:00I think the unanswered questions we have about our...I think the unanswered questions we have about our girl's past is one of the most difficult things to cope with...especially when they are grieving. It's such a bizarre reality to be faced with...being the parent and yet not knowing our child's early experiences. It pains me greatly. <br /><br />I know how hard the lack of sleep is..we've been going through it too. And, the inability to soothe our own child can be so hard to accept. Just keep doing what you are doing...her pain will ease and sleep will come. <br /><br />Lots of love!Mary Schneiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16913896751463688526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-38790212400689989272010-02-28T19:37:06.379-05:002010-02-28T19:37:06.379-05:00What a gut wrenching story she has. What a blessin...What a gut wrenching story she has. What a blessing that you get to be there to comfort her, even when she isn't sure how to accept that comfort.<br /><br />I will pray that your healing words and hands will soothe her little heart and mind and she will come to peace with her grief.Andrea @ The Train To Crazyhttp://thetraintocrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-69246200409560337142010-02-28T18:53:09.390-05:002010-02-28T18:53:09.390-05:00sending hugs and prayers your way my friend!sending hugs and prayers your way my friend!Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10611309167010819390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-79924517711847609492010-02-28T17:45:00.353-05:002010-02-28T17:45:00.353-05:00I tried to leave a comment like four times yesterd...I tried to leave a comment like four times yesterday but Blogger was not cooperating.<br /><br />Anyway, I'm sorry things have been so rough. For both of you. I read on your status update that things had gotten slightly better so I'm hoping that is still the case.<br /><br />I've been thinking about you a lot.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17310806020847827430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-78761399162622941322010-02-28T15:19:21.374-05:002010-02-28T15:19:21.374-05:00Oh, it is so hard to watch your little one grieve....Oh, it is so hard to watch your little one grieve. I remember nights were hardest for Lauren as well. I will say a prayer for your little cricket to allow the healing to continue and for her to bond strongly to you and her family that she has waited so long to be held by.Mardihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17522952628831269036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-331659837991130112010-02-28T14:55:58.084-05:002010-02-28T14:55:58.084-05:00Kayce~
I so appreciate posts from the heart. I f...Kayce~<br /><br />I so appreciate posts from the heart. I feel lucky to have so many who have gone before and are willing to share the hard times as well as the happy times. This post is one of the most beautiful, sad posts I've ever read. I am so sorry Cricket has to go through these feelings. <br /><br />HUGS to all of you!Polar Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13525384893396636212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-37110848495003164242010-02-27T21:33:22.053-05:002010-02-27T21:33:22.053-05:00She's grieving, and her little body may still ...She's grieving, and her little body may still be wrestling physically with the time change -- the life change. Your openness to what she's going through now will serve you so well in the days and years to come.<br /><br />Hang in there! <br /><br />Gayle, mom to two daughters from China (one from Yiyang)Gaylenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-41990575420432525352010-02-27T20:55:48.626-05:002010-02-27T20:55:48.626-05:00A beautiful way to express your feelings. You have...A beautiful way to express your feelings. You have so much love to give her, keep holding her close and kissing her through her tears. Hugs to you and your family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-81666240271006956682010-02-27T20:10:08.866-05:002010-02-27T20:10:08.866-05:00Kayce, I am so thankful that you have chosen to sh...Kayce, I am so thankful that you have chosen to share this with the rest of us. I cannot imagine the grieving period and pain your girl is facing right now. It is so difficult for her....and for you. I hope that as the days, weeks, and months pass......so will these rough nights. Hang in there.....thinking of you all.<br /><br />xo,<br /><br />LisaHalf Gaelic, Half Garlic!https://www.blogger.com/profile/17227046808604837073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-72305306485414341812010-02-27T18:15:00.837-05:002010-02-27T18:15:00.837-05:00Right now I am living and learning through you and...Right now I am living and learning through you and what you, the family and Cricket are going through... <br />I know it isn't always going to be roses... <br />It is sad that little Cricket is so sad at night but in time... she will understand I am sure that you are there... that you will be there when she opens her eyes... hugs to you all...Fliss and Mike Adventureshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07480895260275801501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-19803528089322612492010-02-27T17:48:01.727-05:002010-02-27T17:48:01.727-05:00My heart just breaks to see her grieving so hard. ...My heart just breaks to see her grieving so hard. Everything is so new and soon she will trust you and know you will take care of her and love her and kiss her cheek and help the tears melt away. Hang in there it will get better it will.Paulettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14493053447357838766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-77088329607361719052010-02-27T17:32:42.291-05:002010-02-27T17:32:42.291-05:00This post has brought me to tears...
This brought ...This post has brought me to tears...<br />This brought me back to when we brought Jillian home, she grieved her foster Mom, it was heartbreaking!<br />I know with your patience,, knowledge and understanding, you'll be just fine. Your an incredible Mom...kerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14911408157537598893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-33005105941442903922010-02-27T14:10:43.382-05:002010-02-27T14:10:43.382-05:00My heart breaks as I read that. It is so beautiful...My heart breaks as I read that. It is so beautiful but so painful. I am reading a book right now from Xiran "Messages from an unknown chinese mother" and it ties into what you wrote-- very painful to read but gives you an inderstanding into what these mothers felt and why they did what they did. The hardest book to ever read but sooooo worth reading!!<br /><br />I will continue to pray for you my friend. <br /><br />Christy :)Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03077047658906478290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-68903568863890312152010-02-27T13:26:52.558-05:002010-02-27T13:26:52.558-05:00Just wanted to let you know that you're not th...Just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one dealing with sleep issues.....we're having problems with our little guy too that sound similar to what you're going through. It's tough but will be worth it in the end. Hang in there. <br /><br />Hugs, CourtneyNightingale https://www.blogger.com/profile/07283494408285084925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-16559934246949964732010-02-27T12:57:09.851-05:002010-02-27T12:57:09.851-05:00sleep is supposed to be a peaceful rest for ones m...sleep is supposed to be a peaceful rest for ones mind and soul...yet so many of our girls struggle. It is so hard to watch, so hard to be your best when you are exhausted.<br /> <br /><br />we hooked up Sophie's crib to our bed and that helped. Recently we have found that a weighted blanket helps...http://affordableweightedblankets.com/<br /><br />beautifully written post by the way!A Beautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06743224608400210594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-19536795804338264142010-02-27T12:51:48.986-05:002010-02-27T12:51:48.986-05:00seriously, the writing in this post blows me away....seriously, the writing in this post blows me away. I have not ever read anything so descriptive that I can feel your pain and hers. <br /><br />I haven't been through what you are going through but please know you are in my prayers my friend. <br /><br />Much Love, <br /><br />LeaNumber 6 and no more counting!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12344713441793706790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-74980133679662763412010-02-27T10:38:43.669-05:002010-02-27T10:38:43.669-05:00I'm so sorry your cricket is hurting. I hope h...I'm so sorry your cricket is hurting. I hope her nights get easier for her and for you. <br /><br />This was a beautifully written post. I may just print it out and read it on those nights when I'm delirious to draw some strength from. The nights and lack of sleep are one of my biggest fears.... especially when doing this on my own. Hang in there. I hear it gets better... (smile)Special Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11824577189457099837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-40686646935292197082010-02-27T10:03:15.286-05:002010-02-27T10:03:15.286-05:00Maybe have her sleep with you in your bed so that ...Maybe have her sleep with you in your bed so that she can feel you at night .....<br /><br />or have her sleep in a playpen next to your bed.<br /><br />Thats what we did with our daughter and it work quit well.martinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38184985.post-21960423559330111482010-02-27T09:53:12.040-05:002010-02-27T09:53:12.040-05:00So true, such words we could have written too. The...So true, such words we could have written too. The loss for these children is nothing we can understand. Hopeless does feel real to us. <br />Love, hugs, kisses is what we can do for her. Time heals. We finally felt like we were not sleep deprived after about four months. Such a long process; you are doing great. Even though we look normal on the outside, inside so much is going on with the sadness; it does come and go. Hugs to you; take care of yourself.<br /><br />Alyzabeth's MommyAlyson and Fordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09152315459410231214noreply@blogger.com